Hi! My name is Silver Huang.
I am a neurodiversity coach & mentor who is passionate about connecting neurocultures with integrity and humanity. I work for a world where we can learn to honour our unique differences, and co-create meaningful relationships with others.
My professional practice began in 2017 as a membership program named Intrepid Integrity that supported gifted adults with their integrity and authenticity needs. In 2018, I also began training and working as an assessor and coach for gifted, twice- and multi-exceptional adults from around the world.
- As an assessor, my specialty was helping clients see and understand the underlying structural mechanics and dynamics of their functions and needs for the purposes of supporting and expediting their self developmental journey.
- As a coach, my work centred around helping clients cultivate and practice adaptive and generative self-determination that emerges from a present, whole and resourced state of being.
In 2021, I experienced a deep shift that called me to reevaluate the direction of my professional practice, and to move towards the space between "us" and "them"—between the dimensions of experience that are commonly referred to as "neuronormativity" and "neurodivergence".
I had begun to observe that clients expressed feeling trapped in what appeared to them to be a no-win situation for themselves as neurodifferent people.
They shared that they often felt forced to choose between integrity and humanity, self and other—where:
- Integrity and self represent their neurodifferent needs and wants; and
- Humanity and other represent their connection and relationship needs and wants, as well as their desire to embody values like empathy, compassion, diversity and inclusivity.
The tensions and conflicts shared by clients synchronistically mirrored questions that I was exploring in my own personal, professional, existential and spiritual processes around the same time.
- Do integrity and authenticity have to conflict with connection and relationship? Do we have to sacrifice one side for the other? Is it possible to have both, and if so, how?
- Is there a way we can learn to co-navigate the space between our neurodifferences, with mutual respect, curiosity and compassion from and for all parties involved, be it between individuals or communities?
- Is there a framework that can support us and guide our way, on both meta and practical levels, towards embodying both integrity and humanity, in our selves and in our relationships with people in our lives and the world at large?
I had already begun applying these questions in my own life.
- I began by intentionally changing how I approached the relationships nearest and most familiar to me, that ranged from being mildly to vastly neurodifferent from myself.
- I then slowly expanded my explorations to interactions with people in online communities and programs in interest areas, like entrepreneurship and leadership. I focused on shared skills, goals, interests and universal human processes, while also staying true to my own unique expression, needs and wants as a neurodifferent person.
- I also began to support my clients more directly with their challenges, by openly sharing meta learnings and observations from my own explorations as relevant to their experiences, listening deeply to their feedback and learning how I can support their needs and wants better.
What emerged was a framework—the Sovereignty & Generativity Cycle—that helps both myself and clients better understand:
- The interconnected paths and flow between integrity, authenticity, connection and relationship, and the liminal spaces and challenges between them;
- What clients are experiencing, exploring, needing to work on or desiring to express at any point in time;
- How to apply the framework in micro and macro contexts, from immediate situations in their everyday lives, to challenges of broader leadership, in our communities and the world at large.
It taught me, and reminds us, that wholeness is not limited to or defined within the domain of self. Rather, wholeness is in context of both self and other.
Self development and leadership—what I term sovereignty work—are crucial and foundational towards wholeness, but alone they are incomplete.
When we say we seek wholeness, we may sometimes not know what we are looking for, but we all do have an intuitive felt sense of what it feels like.
A fullness—of joy, love, compassion, talents, passions, visions—that asks to be shared. Freely and healthily given through connection and relationship, for the betterment of all, including self and other—what I term generativity, ergo, being of service—when we are safe and secure in the boundaries of our integrity and authenticity.
I believe generativity is the outcome we seek, and sovereignty is the work we do to make it so. To feel connected to, be in relationship with, give to and serve others, from a space of integrity and authenticity of self.
Today, I work with neurodifferent adults who feel called to personal and broader leadership with integrity and humanity.
As a coach and mentor, I walk beside and guide clients over the longer-term to thrive joyfully, boldly and abundantly, and have meaningful relationships in their personal lives as family members, partners and friends, and in their professional lives as employees, colleagues and leaders.