Coaching for Highly, Exceptionally & Profoundly Gifted Adults.
Numbering less than 1% of the population, highly, exceptionally and profoundly gifted (HEPG) adults are a minority within a minority.
Silver has chosen to work exclusively with this unique segment of the population because, as a profoundly gifted adult herself who was not identified till the age of 36, she knows firsthand how HEPG needs are unrecognised and underserved.
Hyperminority needs are not any less real nor less important than the needs of any other human being on this planet.
Why Should HEPG Adults Need Coaching, If They Are So Smart?
HEPG adults often resist coaching because they experience severe conflict around being so intelligent, creative and capable.
They often think to themselves, “Well, if I’m so smart—and I know I am—then…”
- “I shouldn’t be struggling and suffering so with X, Y and Z.”
- “This shouldn’t be so hard and painful for me, when it is so easy and casual for other people.”
- “I should be able to figure this out myself.”
However, all the intelligence, creativity and capability in the world cannot make up for a lack of realistically relevant and relatable developmental role modelling and peer mirroring, from childhood to adulthood.
This impacts everything from self-concept and self-worth, to self-care and self-actualisation. These are all critical aspects of self-development that drive and determine foundational assumptions, expectations and decisions throughout life, from material to relational to existential domains.
Starting from scratch, however, is overwhelmingly difficult, even more so if one attempts to do so without the structure and support of role modelling and peer mirroring in a safe and professional context.
Hence, HEPG coaching for HEPG adults.
What Are the Different Stages of Coaching?
Coaching is a spiral journey of unfoldment that is guided by the client’s ever-deepening alignment to their deepest and highest states of being.
The coaching process is but a microcosm of life itself, and life is not linear. We circle back over and over again to stages at ever deeper and higher intensities as needed, depending on the choices we make at any moment or stage in our life.
Hence, the stages as presented below are but an oversimplified and linearised summary of the complexities that unfold during the actual coaching process and relationship.
Validation + Affirmation.
The foundation of HEPG coaching begins with the validation and affirmation of the fact that HEPG reality—experience and expression—is vastly different from 99% of the population—i.e. what Silver terms the neuromajority—in every domain.
As a HEPG herself, Silver draws upon her own life experience, as well as what she has learnt through interacting and working with HEPG adults, to provide honest mirroring and modelling for her clients.
Identification + Resolution.
The process of validation and affirmation naturally flows into the identification and resolution of deeply seated schemas and complex traumas around self-concept and self-worth resulting from a lifelong lack of mirroring and modelling.
Silver aids her clients with the identification of potential schemas and traumas through coaching, and supports her clients with the resolution process via meta-discussion, however she does not provide therapy and will work with clients to seek professional therapy as required.
Liberation + Empowerment.
The process of identifying and resolving schemas and traumas then naturally results in the gradual replacement of self-denying and repressive patterns of belief and behavior, with self-affirming and empowering models of being.
Silver supports her clients in developing a relationship of self-love and respect with their innate source of power and self-organisational gravity from whence self-authority, security and direction emergently flows to guide their choices in inner and outer life.
Iteration + Actualisation.
The stage that everyone fixates upon! Yet 75% of the self-actualisation process is intangible, as is shown by the other stages, and is crucial for laying the groundwork for sustainable and meaningful creation in the tangible world.
Silver encourages her clients to not only proactively apply and trust in their innate ingenuity as HEPG adults to their own life, but to come to love the iterative process of exploration, experimentation, expression and experience.
There is no failure, only data, learning and refinement on the never-ending journey towards ever closer alignment on all dimensions of being, from material to existential.
Silver’s Coaching Motto + Methodology.
Silver’s motto is twofold—
- Know it is possible—Without which, nothing is.
- Trust who you are—Your innate ingenuity and intention.
Her methodology is not rocket science yet effective—
- Alignment with Being—Source of deepest fulfilment.
- Mastery of Emergence—Source of accurate action.
- Commitment to Iteration—Exploration, experimentation, expression and experience.