I work as a coach for gifted and twice- and multi-exceptional adults and I realised very quickly that coaching, though powerful, is very intermittent. Meaning, clients only see their coaches at most once or twice a week and only for a couple of hours each time. During coaching, they receive mirroring and modelling, validation and affirmation of their unique neurocognitive experience and expression… however, it is limited by time.
When I was growing up and blundering through my early adulthood, I was constantly searching for autobiographies that talked about how it is like going through the trenches, as Brene Brown says. I don’t want to know what it’s like now, nor do I want hindsight because hindsight is useless. Sure, the meta-perspective is helpful but it is only helpful up to a point.
I always wanted to see how the people that I looked up to really lived through their minute-by-minute process, how they felt, what they thought, how they worked through their blocks and struggles, how they failed in the small ways that none of us see but that are just as important as the big failures.
I wanted to know their humanity, because I wanted to know it was possible to be human and still “get there”.
To put it in my customary blunt way… Talking about this shit is all fine and good. It is easy to throw an article together, put the steps together A, B, C and say, “Do this! Think this! Feel that! See that!” Pooh!
SHOW ME HOW YOU FUCKING DO IT. DON’T TELL ME.
That’s what this blog is about.
I work as a coach, but I am a being who aspires to experiencing and expressing my deepest, highest and rawest states in the now, materially and existentially, and I know I am not the only one.
I am not here to say, “This is how it is done.”
I am here to show you, “This is how I happened to do it in this moment, here is how I struggle, here is how I felt, what I thought, how I allowed myself to be, how I guided myself through that… and if this is of any value to you, then take it, take it. Use it.”
If nothing else, I want to show you that you are not alone and that this is possible, moment by moment, day by day.
THIS is what it means to be real. THIS is how it looks like.
Not because I am a better person. Not because I am a more learned person. No, none of that, none of that hierarchy shit.
But because I am just ANOTHER GIFTED ADULT too, just.like.you.
So… that’s what this blog is about. That’s all.