There is an insidiously destructive societal belief that gifted individuals shouldn’t struggle with anything, whether it’s:
- Employment, vocation or career,
- Relationships, platonic, romantic or professional,
- Health, or
The assumption is:
- “If you’re gifted, you’ve got the perfect life handed to you on a silver platter.”
- “You don’t need help or support, and above all, you have no right to complain that life is hard.”
Yet you struggle precisely because of your giftedness. Your emotional intensity causes you to experience your suffering far more acutely than any non-gifted person could ever fathom.
However, you, like the rest of us gifted, have probably unconsciously integrated this myth of “gifted ease”. As a result, you guilt yourself far more than you let on to your non-gifted family and peers:
- “If I’m so good at A, B and C, why do I struggle and suffer so with X, Y and Z?”
- “Why is this so hard and painful for me and yet so easy and casual for other people in my life?”
Most importantly of all, you secretly wonder to yourself, “If I’m so intelligent…”:
- “Why do I have such a hard time understanding and helping myself?”
- “Why do I struggle so much?”
This is not a simple issue or question to answer because there are so many variables to consider.
However, most gifted individuals are deprived of a relatable neuroculture during development into adulthood.